Comming Wed. March 30, 2008
Feature interview on how a new young couple is finding life once they moved in together. Pictures, fun and a lot more.. Stay tuned..
Celebrity Relationships March 28, 2008
As with most things in the media spot light, what you see isn’t always what you get. Case in point, the “celebrity relationship.” Just like girls shouldn’t starve themselves to look like what they see on a magazine cover, every day couples shouldn’t attempt to live life like the kissy face stars that grace the pages of US Weekly. In a world that is based off of glossy ads, one involved in a relationship now would be surprised to find that smiling infamous couples in the photos we see don’t always signify a happy twosome. I guess what I’m trying to get at is, even if he can’t buy you a new penthouse for your birthday, or if she can’t get you those season tickets to your favorite sports team, you might just be surprised to find that you are a lot happier than they are. The grass isn’t always greener. Take a look…
Chace Crawford and Carrie Underwood: After a whirlwind of a courtship the two who just got together this past July, recently had their reps announce their “amicable” break-up. I guess she couldn’t sing her way into his heart.
Robin Williams and wife Marsha Garces: This one kinda tugs on your heart a little bit, and just goes to show you that even marriages that were once thought to go the whole 9 yards can’t even make it in the “biz”. Married in 1989, after 19 years of marriage the two filed for divorce.
Reese and Ryan: After being an item for nearly a decade, the two decided to formally separate in October of 2006. Later after filing “irreconcilable differences” they were divorced. This one was sad, the couple who always seemed like the anti-Hollywood pair couldn’ t even handle the pressures of the spotlight. Rumors formulated on magazine pages and on entertainment television of extra marital affairs, nothing was ever confirmed.
Jessica Simpson and Nick Lachey: I think we all pretty much watched this couple unfold on MTV’s “ The Newlyweds.” A cute sitcom that broke down he daily grind of this pop couple. This sad break-up came at the end of 2005 to the shock of all those that had grown to love them.
Heath Ledger and Michelle Williams: This is just sad. Approximitly 4 months prior to Ledger’s tragic death the two split up. After the news of his death, Michelle released a statement stating, ” I have lost my soul mate.” Rumors circulated after the stars death that the two would have definatly rekindled their romance had he had been given more time.
Heather Locklear and Richie Sambora: This “Jersey boy” did his wife of over 10 years, Heather Locklear wrong. After citing “irreconcilable differences” as the cause for their split, Sambora started dating his ex-wife’s best friend, fellow actress, and fellow Hollywood divorcee, Denise Richards. That’s just wrong.
I am not trying to beat this sore subject over the head, but I believe that our society as a whole is starting to think that the way celebrities handle their relationships and live their lives is the social norm. The truth of the matter is that it couldn’t be further from the truth. They might be normal human beings in their private lives but their lifestyles are anything but normal.
Enjoy the relationship that you are in and never base what you have on what you see on the TV. Like I stated earlier, the grass isn’t always greener 
Till next time…
Is Chivalry Dead? March 25, 2008
The reason why my Mom was so fond of my boyfriend to begin with was that he was what she called, “different for men these days.” He came to the door, in a sports jacket, flower in hand (fake from 7/11..don’t burst my bubble), he opened the car door, and he waited till I was in the door till he pulled away. He was an old soul, something that neither she or I had seen in a long time. How sad right? What happened to men? Why does it seem that the latest trend is “being cool?” Where are all of the “Noah’s” of the world. For those of you who don’t know who a Noah is, watch “The Notebook”… just watch it. For those that have seen it, does it get much better? That is a true example of chivalry in the 40’s. Where in my opinion it was at its peak and hasn’t seen the light of day since.
Talking to some of the older women I work with it seems as though somewhere in the last 20-30 years men have gone from meeting the parents, coming to front doors and shaking hands to honking in the driveway and speeding off before one barely gets their foot in the god damn door.
All one has to do today is mention the word chivalry and three key words come to mind. It is dead. I know that women have struggled for years now to become equals with men, but when, WHEN, did it become the social norm for the girl to pay on a date? I know that women are more than capable, but cmon now. Some things I believe, should still be in effect.
Women asking men out? Sure it shows a strong confident 21st century female, but this would heva never happened 20-30years ago.
Sometimes I feel as though women are hypocritical. I have been guilty of it as well. We want to be equals, but as soon as a guy pulls a move like asking a girl to spilt the check or not pulling out her chair, we are out of there before the bill comes, sharing every chival-less move with our girlfriends.
Call me old fashioned, not up to date, but I am a young women with an old soul. I believe in men asking women out, pulling out chairs, comming to doors, calling when they say they will and footing the bill. It doesn’t mean that, in any way shape or form, that I am not capable of doing these things on my own. They are just the little things that set a good man apart from the rest of the breed. The man our grandmother and mother would have expected and wanted us to date. Shouldn’t we want that for ourselves?
Are mother’s still raising their boys this way? I know my mother is.
I know I will get comments telling me I’m a man hater. This couldn’t be further from the case either. The reason I write this is after all of my past relationships. Now that I have found someone with all of the quailties my mom used to tell me to look for, I began realizing that the guys I used to date, didn’t have an ounce of chivarly in their pinky toe. What was worse is that back then, I didn’t even think anything was wrong with this. Young women my age (21-and older) seem to underestimate what they deserve and are becomming numb to the ways of men these days. Ways that should not be, in my opinion, a social norm.
I hope that by writing this someone will read this and realize that yes, times are different, but not everything has to change. There is a reason why today 50% of marriages fail, and yet our grandparents are still married. Maybe they knew something that we didn’t? Perhaps our grandfathers pulled out a couple of chairs in their day.
Chivalry Today which is an online website designated to this arcahic noble trait gives a definition that I feel is really fitting. Perhaps after reading this and understanding the exact definition some guy out there will be inspired and pass it on. Lets hope:
Today, we’re not too different from those knights in the Middle Ages we have a great deal of wealth and resources and freedom at our disposal, and we can use (or misuse) them in nearly any way we like.
Perhaps that’s why people are finding the concept of chivalry so relevant to modern life. Perhaps, like those knights in shining armor hundreds of years ago, we want to experience the satisfaction of knowing that we have championed the right causes and embraced the right principles, not because we were told to do so, but simply because we have chosen to follow that path.
In short, that’s what chivalry is a choice. The choice to do the right things, for the right reasons, at the right times. And that’s a definition that even your social studies teacher probably would have approved of.(courtesy of Civalry Today.com)
This is the trailer from the movie “The Notebook”… It doesn’t do it any justice. Chivalry… at it’s best.. Rent it.
Where Did My Friends Go? March 12, 2008
When I first started dating my boyfriend, after a 3 year hiatus from men, my life took a drastic change. Of course for me, it was for the better, but for some of my friends, they didn’t exactly feel the same way. (more…)
Who Are These So Called “Love Experts?” March 11, 2008
I blog on here sharing my opinions with those who will take the time to read it. I state my thoughts, my beliefs and my ideas that I feel to be true. I do not claim to be anything I am not. Make no mistake, I am not an expert. (more…)
For the most part March 10, 2008
THE FRIKEN BOXES AND QUESTION MARKS ARE GONE!
Seems as though when you copy and paste documents from word or works to put on your blog, some evil code appears. So I just spent the last hour or so taking out all of these horrible creatures. Now if you find one, I don’t want to know! If you have the same problem, don’t worry I cursed them off(the boxes of course) enough for the both of us.
Till Friday… Jess
Feature Part 1: He’s Just Not That Into You- Book Review March 9, 2008
In 2004 Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, writers from the HBO hit series, “Sex In the City,” coauthored the now famous self help book, “He’s Just Not That Into You, The No Excuses Truth To Understanding Guys.”
Ever since Oprah Winfrey featured this book, that was solely based on a Sex In The City episode, on her show, it has been the talk of girl’s night everywhere. Since it made its public debut, this harsh view of reality, has been flying off shelves everywhere, making a spot for itself on the best-seller list, and on the night stands of women world wide.
I wanted to take a look into the world that is this very book. The good the bad the ugly and give you a book review that is honest, just like this book.
Take a look to the bare text, chapter by chapter, if you will. For the few of you out there who have never read or heard of this book, let me set the scene for you. Each of the clever chapters are coined with sarcastic phrases for horrible situations that women encounter in the world of dating. Blunt, to the point, horribly true, yet, obvious situations that have the ability to make women everywhere, including myself cringe at the thought of them.
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Chapter 1- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Calling
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Chapter 2- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Asking You Out
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Chapter 3- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Having Sex With You
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Chapter 4-Hes Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Dating You
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Chapter 5- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Having Sex With Someone Else
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Chapter 6- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants To See You When He’s Drunk
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Chapter 7- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Doesn’t Want to Marry You
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Chapter 8- Hes Just Not That Into You If He’s Breaking Up With You
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Chapter 9- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Has Disappeared On You
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Chapter 10- Hes Just Not That Into You If He is Married ( or is other forms of unavailable)
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Chapter 11- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s a Selfish Jerk, a Bully, or a Really Big Freak
Get it? Got it? Great. In every chapter after going into detail about each self explanatory problem at hand, the two authors answer questions posed by women who have written into them, in need of obvious assistance. This section is a bit of a rant and some sort of his and her answer session.
An example of the simple, somewhat hard to hear advice co-author Greg Behrendt writes, “Oh sure, they say they’re busy. They say that they didn’t have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don’t even mean to”
The message of this book: don’t be blind women. This self help guide to dating is entirely made up of the excuses that women make for their situations. It also includes tips on how to get what you want, how not to look dumb, and how to know when he’s just not worth it.
Aimed for all of the women out there who have ever made an excuse for a man, this book is written for those who are undoubtedly looking for marriage or some form of romantic kinship. This guide has either been greeted with hailed reviews or completely shunned.
JoAnn Smith, age 49, twice married, twice divorced mother of 3 thought, “the book is great and wise. I believe that they indulged in the areas that young girls and their girlfriends won’t talk about and defiantly wont tell each other.This is true for a lot of reasons. One, they just simply don’t know yet, don’t have the experience. Second in some sick way every women likes being ahead in the game of dating. If my best friend had a better guy than me, or if I wasn’t dating a guy, I’m not going out of my way tell her what I think. Anyways, “I’m old fashioned. I still believe that men should chase women.”
Tara Krauszer, age 19, still in search. “I’m sort of on the fence with this book. In some ways the information is great, kinda obvious to any women of intellect but true and blunt. Then on the other hand, I feel as if it has a “poor you” attitude toward women. Most women know for instance, that when he stops calling… It’s over. ”
Two completely different thoughts, from two obviously different age groups. Does experience equal knowledge? Is this book telling the truth? As far as an overall review, just because it was the first one of its kind, and was loved by Oprah doesn’t qualify it as good. Entertaining and interesting? Sure. Founded? Not at all.
If you are interested in more books written by these authors:
Its called a breakup, because its broken- Greg Behrendt
How To Be Single- Liz Tuccillo
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ALERT: March 9, 2008
ATTENTION: As I mentioned in the beginning of this endeavour, I am not technologically savvy. That said again, if your reading my blogs and you have noticed those little boxes or question mark thingers in the writing, your not the only one. I have been sitting here poking my eyeballs out trying to figure out how to get rid of them! So my sincerest apologies, I know its annoying. But the reading is hopefully worth it, so continue please! It will hopefully be fixed by Monday! Thanks- Jess
