I find myself in a bind lately trying to prove to my better half that it is not always the big gestures of love that count or mean the most. In fact most of the time he shows his love for me in ways that he might not even be aware of. Don’t get me twisted here, I wouldn’t turn down flowers or diamonds, but often I find myself needing the things that don’t cost a thing. Those are the presents that last forever for me personally. I want to keep this short and to the point. I hope that one can come away from my hints and experiences in this area either aware of something they never knew they wanted or can find ways they themselves can show love to their boyfriend/girlfriend without robbing a bank.
From my relationship to yours…sometimes love is Corny:)
* In the morning when my boyfriend leaves for work at 6 a.m, I am still asleep, or at least I pretend to be, (someone thinks its OK to turn on the bedroom lights when others are sleeping *cough*) he comes over to my side of the bed and sits there for at least a minute and then kisses me on the head. I know that to some that might be common, and I suppose it is. The thing is, he doesn’t know I know this, and it makes it all the more special for me. It says, I wish I didn’t have to leave…to me. It is sweet and kind, and without spending a dime, he starts my mornings off knowing that I am loved.
*My schedule is pretty hectic lately with school and work and trying to have some form of life in between, so my house suffers the consequence of my chaos. I am as anal as they come when it comes to keeping my life in order and neat, and my boyfriend knows this. It’s nice when I come home and my things are put away for me, my laundry is done, bed is made, and I can come home and just sit still for a while. It also adds to the time I have to spend with him. Sometimes knowing what creates stress in your partners life can be a really simple and kind way to show them you care by alleviating it and taking it off their shoulders.
*Obviously I have a passion for the written word, It is what I hope to make a career out of one day. Even though my boyfriend isn’t the best at putting things down on paper, he knows what it means to me. Letters are so telling of time, and are what I consider one of the most romantic gestures someone can do for you. It is free, and can mean more to you than anything that money can buy. For Valentine’s Day this year, he wrote me a letter from his heart to mine, telling me everything he has ever thought about our relationship, and framed it. So when I came home it was hanging on my wall. I look at it everyday and know how much I am loved. Call me Corny…go on..but I’m the happiest corniest girl you’ll ever meet.
*Life can get in the way of relationships, and especially romance. With technology ruling our worlds, sometimes the easiest way to show someone you care is in a simple email, call, or text. During the week when I’m almost 2 hours away from the love of my life, it is nice to know that he is only a text away. When I am sitting in class missing the crap out of him and I get a simple “miss you” text, well, there isn’t anything better than that. Sometimes the easiest way to show someone you love them, is simply by saying it.
There are so many different ways to show someone you care by the little things you can do. These are just a few of the ways I personally have felt it. Even if you don’t care for my ways personally, make them your own and find ways that relate to your life. If not… just try and understand the message. Love isn’t about how much money you can spend on each other.
-Jess
