In 2004 Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, writers from the HBO hit series, “Sex In the City,” coauthored the now famous self help book, “He’s Just Not That Into You, The No Excuses Truth To Understanding Guys.”
Ever since Oprah Winfrey featured this book, that was solely based on a Sex In The City episode, on her show, it has been the talk of girl’s night everywhere. Since it made its public debut, this harsh view of reality, has been flying off shelves everywhere, making a spot for itself on the best-seller list, and on the night stands of women world wide.
I wanted to take a look into the world that is this very book. The good the bad the ugly and give you a book review that is honest, just like this book.
Take a look to the bare text, chapter by chapter, if you will. For the few of you out there who have never read or heard of this book, let me set the scene for you. Each of the clever chapters are coined with sarcastic phrases for horrible situations that women encounter in the world of dating. Blunt, to the point, horribly true, yet, obvious situations that have the ability to make women everywhere, including myself cringe at the thought of them.
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Chapter 1- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Calling
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Chapter 2- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Asking You Out
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Chapter 3- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Having Sex With You
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Chapter 4-Hes Just Not That Into You If He’s Not Dating You
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Chapter 5- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s Having Sex With Someone Else
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Chapter 6- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Only Wants To See You When He’s Drunk
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Chapter 7- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Doesn’t Want to Marry You
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Chapter 8- Hes Just Not That Into You If He’s Breaking Up With You
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Chapter 9- He’s Just Not That Into You If He Has Disappeared On You
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Chapter 10- Hes Just Not That Into You If He is Married ( or is other forms of unavailable)
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Chapter 11- He’s Just Not That Into You If He’s a Selfish Jerk, a Bully, or a Really Big Freak
Get it? Got it? Great. In every chapter after going into detail about each self explanatory problem at hand, the two authors answer questions posed by women who have written into them, in need of obvious assistance. This section is a bit of a rant and some sort of his and her answer session.
An example of the simple, somewhat hard to hear advice co-author Greg Behrendt writes, “Oh sure, they say they’re busy. They say that they didn’t have even a moment in their insanely busy day to pick up the phone. It was just that crazy. All lies. With the advent of cell phones and speed dialing, it is almost impossible not to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don’t even mean to”
The message of this book: don’t be blind women. This self help guide to dating is entirely made up of the excuses that women make for their situations. It also includes tips on how to get what you want, how not to look dumb, and how to know when he’s just not worth it.
Aimed for all of the women out there who have ever made an excuse for a man, this book is written for those who are undoubtedly looking for marriage or some form of romantic kinship. This guide has either been greeted with hailed reviews or completely shunned.
JoAnn Smith, age 49, twice married, twice divorced mother of 3 thought, “the book is great and wise. I believe that they indulged in the areas that young girls and their girlfriends won’t talk about and defiantly wont tell each other.This is true for a lot of reasons. One, they just simply don’t know yet, don’t have the experience. Second in some sick way every women likes being ahead in the game of dating. If my best friend had a better guy than me, or if I wasn’t dating a guy, I’m not going out of my way tell her what I think. Anyways, “I’m old fashioned. I still believe that men should chase women.”
Tara Krauszer, age 19, still in search. “I’m sort of on the fence with this book. In some ways the information is great, kinda obvious to any women of intellect but true and blunt. Then on the other hand, I feel as if it has a “poor you” attitude toward women. Most women know for instance, that when he stops calling… It’s over. ”
Two completely different thoughts, from two obviously different age groups. Does experience equal knowledge? Is this book telling the truth? As far as an overall review, just because it was the first one of its kind, and was loved by Oprah doesn’t qualify it as good. Entertaining and interesting? Sure. Founded? Not at all.
If you are interested in more books written by these authors:
Its called a breakup, because its broken- Greg Behrendt
How To Be Single- Liz Tuccillo
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