There is nothing that bothers me more in life then having a conflict with someone ( I’m talking a MAJOR problem. A problem that hurt. Might have even made you cry.) and having someone who is extremely close to you say, ” Well they didn’t do anything to me, so I can’t really be mad at them.”______________!!!( Insert explicit language here.)
Maybe it’s me. Perhaps I expect too much out of people. But is expecting to be treated how you treat others ever too much to ask for?
Case in point: A ‘friend of mine” recently found out someone in our immediate circle of close girlfriends was hanging out with her ex. Her excuse- “It was so long ago and he never hurt me, so why is it a big deal?”
WHY? It just is. It’s a big deal, and for those that don’t believe it’s a big deal…well…I seriously question you as a human.
Coming from a person who hates all forms of confrontation, when it comes to standing up for a friend and being an all around loyal person, sometimes awkward confrontations are just worth it.
Whether it be standing up for a close friend when someone does him/her wrong, not talking to a certain person for hurting your Mom, or ignoring that guy in the drugstore, the one who cheated on your friend, no matter how much fun you all had together. Loyalty.. it’s all about loyalty.
I never understood why a person would want to continue being friends with another person, fully knowing the hurt and pain they caused someone they care about. I am actually starting to think it might be a good thing that I can not, no matter how I try to understand, fathom the thought of befriending or continuing a relationship with someone who hurt someone I love.
I know everyone is different. Of course, there are exceptions to the rules. I just wish that at this time in our country, when everyone has much bigger fish to fry, that we as human beings could jump back to the basics of humanity. Being loyal, doing unto others as you would have done to you, and standing up for what is right. Perhaps when we break it down and get back on track, everything else will follow.
Just a little something that’s been on my mind…